50 LIFE RULES THAT ARE GOLDEN.

1. Always stand up while shaking hands with someone.

2. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.

3. Keep their secret if they have faith in you.

4. Return an automobile they lend you with the tank full.

5. Act passionately or don't act at all.

6. Shake hands firmly and stare the other person in the eye.

7. Take a solo trip and experience it.

8. There are clear reasons why you should never refuse a peppermint tablet.

9. If aging is your goal, heed advice.

10. Join the new individual at the office or school for dinner.

11. If you are furious and you are texting someone, complete, read, delete, and rewrite the message.

12. You avoid discussing business, politics, or religion at the table.

13. Set goals and work toward them in writing.

14. Present your case while showing people respect and tolerance.

15. Make a visit and phone your family.

16. Never look back and always learn from your experiences

17. Your personality ought to be one of loyalty and honor.

18. Never give money to someone you know won't be able to repay you.

19. Have faith in something.

20. Make your bed as soon as you wake up.

21. Take a shower and sing.

22. Maintain a garden or a plant.

23. Look up at the sky whenever you get the chance.

24. Recognize and utilize your strengths.

25. Embrace your work or quit it.

26. When you need assistance, ask for it.

27. Instruct someone in a value—ideally a modest one.

28. Express gratitude to the person who is reaching out to you.

29. Show your neighbors kindness.

30. If you brighten someone else's day, it will brighten yours as well.

31. Put yourself to the test.

32 Give yourself a treat at least yearly

33. Look after your well-being.

34. Always give a cheerful greeting.

35. Speak slowly, but think quickly.

36. Avoid speaking while full of mouth.

37. Always maintain a neat appearance, trim your nails, and shine your shoes.

38. Avoid voicing an opinion on topics you are unfamiliar with.

39. Don't treat others badly.

40. Approach each day as though it were your last.

41. Don't ever pass up the chance to keep silent.

42. Give someone credit for their work.

43. Have humility, even if it's not always present.

44. Always remember your origins.

45. Take trips whenever you can.

46. Resign from the step.

47 Take a rainy dance.

48. Keep going after your success.

49. Treat others fairly and defend those in need.

50. Acquire the skill of relishing solitude.

All Life Gets Greater as we go

Every day we do not know what the future entails, yet we go into the vast unknown with our heads held high and nothing can stop us, because of our optimistic and unwavering attitude to meet the new challenges of the future.

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Who Will You Be Kind To Today?

Marlene

We can't always wait for others to step in when life gets tough. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is take the initiative and help someone else. Not only will you witness the profound impact of kindness on others, but you'll also feel its warmth in your own heart.

I recall one Thanksgiving season at Meijer. The woman ahead of me in line had a cart full of groceries. She explained to the cashier that it was her year to host Thanksgiving and politely asked for a running total since she had brought only a set amount of money.

As the total approached her limit, the cashier had to set aside about ten items from her cart. The woman began to cry, clearly embarrassed that she couldn't afford everything she needed. Moved by her situation, I caught the cashier's eye and discreetly signaled that I would pay for the items left behind.

The woman looked around, hoping to see who had helped her, but everyone in line denied it. Once she finished checking out, I approached her and gently explained that I had overheard her conversation. Tears filled her eyes again as she shared that the rising cost of food had left her stretched thin, and now she didn't even have money for gas to get home.

Our eyes met, and I wanted to help her further. I placed $50 in her hands. She hesitated and tried to refuse, but I urged her, saying, "Please, let me help. I've been in your shoes before, and strangers were there for me when I least expected it. Now it's my turn."

She called me an angel, but I'm not.

I'm simply someone who believes in compassion and the power of small acts of kindness. When I can, I love to extend that kindness to others.

We all have opportunities to help others in our own way. And when we do, it's not just for them, it's for us, too. Those good feelings ripple outward and have a way of returning to us in surprising and beautiful ways.

Though we can't help everybody, we can all help somebody. Let's make this holiday season one to remember. Spread kindness, and watch how it brightens the world around you.

Your Generosity of Spirit

Marlene

With all the experiences you've gathered and the wisdom you've gained at this stage, it's clear how much value you bring to the world. I want to remind you of something powerful: the more we give of ourselves, our appreciation, care, and love, the more abundant our lives become.

Gratitude isn't just about recognizing what's good but amplifying it.

You create richer and more fulfilling connections when you show genuine gratitude or offer love without expecting anything in return. You set a tone for others, inspiring them to reflect that energy back to you and those around them.

It's like planting seeds in a garden; each one grows into something vibrant, expanding beyond what you could have imagined. This way of living isn't just fulfilling, it's energizing.

You've likely seen how small, thoughtful gestures can create lasting ripples in your relationships or work. That's the beauty of giving freely; it doesn't deplete you; it renews you. In doing so, you embody leadership, encouraging others to live with the same open heart.

Being Hard on Yourself

Marlene

It’s often easier to tell others to be gentle with themselves than to enact that same grace in our own lives. As human beings, we have a tendency to set high personal standards, and when we don’t meet them, we criticize ourselves for falling short or perhaps even for dreaming too big. The frustration we feel when something goes wrong is often self-directed, but this feeling of self-blame is a common one — and there are many ways to remedy the situation.

A big part of getting out of a rut is recognizing there will always be things that are out of our control. Furthermore, there will always be situations in our lives that turn out less than ideal, such as coming up short in a job interview or dropping the ball on a correspondence with a friend. The trick is to shift our focus away from self-criticism and toward progress and possibility.

Failure, or anything that feels like it, is a learning tool that helps us better understand ourselves, our bandwidth, and our drive. In other words, it’s an opportunity to turn a negative into a positive. So the next time we’re feeling down, let’s try to remember we’re all doing the best we can. Here, we’ve rounded up 10 quotes that may be just what you need to hear on those days when you’re being too hard on yourself.

Caution

Marlene

Imagine life as this incredible journey, full of stops, sights, and little treasures along the way. When we're constantly in a hurry, rushing from one task to the next, it might feel productive, but we're racing past the experiences that make life feel rich and meaningful.

It's like speeding down a scenic road with no time to look out the window; you'll reach your destination but miss so many moments that could have made the ride worthwhile.

By slowing down even a bit, you give yourself the chance to see where you are right now. In those slower moments, you reconnect with what truly matters, finding little reminders of joy, beauty, and the why behind your journey.

So, take a moment to breathe, to let go of some of the rush. Sometimes, the answers to where you're going and why you started are just waiting for you to notice them right where you are.

Surviving

Surviving tragedy is never easy, whether it’s a catastrophic event that affects thousands of lives or something we experience on a personal scale. Our residual feelings of grief, fear, and resentment often far outlast the tragedy itself, and it can be difficult to carry on while they plague our lives. But those who are able to overcome tragedy can be enlightened by the many lessons they learn along the way, which they can then pass on to others in an effort to spread messages of inspiration and hope. It’s hard to fathom that a single tragic event could transform the world into a new place we may not recognize. It takes time for many of us to adapt to this new normal, which may at first be difficult and deeply uncomfortable. Sometimes we may even feel foreign to ourselves in the midst of this process. But during this personal journey, it’s important to embrace acceptance and forgiveness, both of which can help us move on and grow in the wake of such difficult events. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Wisdom Is Timeless

Marlene

Wisdom transcends the boundaries of time, offering guidance across generations. It's not just knowledge but the thoughtful application of experience, insight, and understanding.What was true centuries ago about human nature, relationships, and ethics remains relevant today. Wisdom adapts to change but holds firm in its core values, teaching us that while the world evolves, fundamental truths endure.Whether passed down through ancient proverbs or lived experiences, wisdom continues to illuminate the path forward, reminding us that the lessons of the past hold the keys to navigating the present and future.

How we Age

Gray hair and wrinkles might not feel like much to joke about, but when it comes to aging none of us are immune, so sometimes the best thing we can do is laugh. With older age comes wisdom, experience, and perspective — three things that can help us recognize how important it is to look on the brighter side. While we’re all destined to grow old (if we’re lucky), maintaining a positive attitude can help our outlook stay fresh and youthful. As George Burns once said, “You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.” yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Patience

We’d all like to think of ourselves as calm, patient, unflappable people with the ability to wait quietly when need be. But the truth is, we all experience situations that make us feel anxious and impatient. Whether we’re anticipating some potentially life-changing news or just sitting in standstill traffic, every one of us has times when we itch so badly for something to happen that the waiting feels almost unbearable. If life came with a remote control, we’d press the fast-forward button to find out what happens. It’s in these times that we have to remind ourselves faster isn’t always better. As the saying goes, good things come to those who wait. If we rush through our lives to get to the “important” bits, we’ll miss out on some truly beautiful moments along the way. Patience is also crucial within our relationships. The ability to keep our cool and show understanding when we feel annoyed or even angry with the people we love doesn’t only preserve our relationships; it transforms them. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Age can't Stop Us

No matter how old we get, we all have an inner child within us that encompasses our innocence, whimsy, and unmitigated joy. This crucial part of our subconscious also connects us with memories from long ago that continue to hold great meaning even decades later. But it’s all too easy to neglect our inner child, and doing so can make us lose sight of the things that help keep us young at heart. The good news is our inner child never disappears entirely and can always be revived, even if we’ve gone a long time without nourishing those childlike emotions. It’s never too late to look inward and encourage that youthful spirit to thrive once again. In the process, we may even unearth some long-lost memories that bring a smile to our faces and warmth to our hearts. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Farewell is Part of Life

Bidding farewell to the familiar and embracing change is always difficult to some degree, especially later in life once we’ve settled further into our habits and routines. But our golden years often leave us no choice but to adapt, even if we’d rather stay the course. Maybe we have to come to terms with retiring after 50 years, or cope with losing a loved one we’ve known since childhood — either way, when such events happen, the best thing we can do is face them head-on. Knowing that change is inevitable, we’re left with two choices. We can fear it, deny it, and run from it, or we can open our minds to it and grow. If we choose the latter, we may find ourselves surprised at just how much that mindset can enrich our lives. After all, age is just a number, and whether we’re 8 or 80, we can always learn new skills. And of course, change doesn’t necessarily have to be the result of a traumatic event. It can also mean picking up that hobby we’ve always thought about trying or selling our home and living in an RV like we’ve always dreamed about. It boils down to being willing to take that first step and walk forward into the unknown with an optimistic outlook. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

WE DETERMINE OUR OWN LIVES

WE DETERMINE OUR OWN LIVES Existentialism argues that we are defined by our existence as humans, and are responsible for finding meaning in our own individual lives. In existentialism, no omnipotent being or force determines a person’s life; rather, it’s up to each individual to set the course through our actions and decisions. We can see how this idea has been passed down through decades of existential thought in this quote, which first appeared in Dostoevsky’s ​​philosophical novel The Brothers Karamazov in 1880 and, in 1945, was used as an epigraph by Simone de Beauvoir: “Each of us is responsible for everything and to every human being.” Or, as Sartre put it: “There is no traced-out path to lead man to his salvation; he must constantly invent his own path. But, to invent it, he is free, responsible, without excuse, and every hope lies within him.” EXISTENTIAL DREAD The flip side of all this individual freedom and responsibility is that it can easily give rise to existential dread, also known as existential angst, anxiety, or anguish — or, in a modern psychological sense, an existential crisis. This arises from the search for meaning in life and confusion around our personal purpose. “Man is condemned to be free,” wrote Sartre, “because once thrown into the world, he is responsible for everything he does.” This freedom can give rise to the dreaded questions of whether life actually has meaning at all, and, if not, why do we go on living? In his 1942 essay The Myth of Sisyphus, Camus posed the disconcerting notion that “judging whether life is or is not worth living amounts to answering the fundamental question of philosophy.” THE ABSURD Another central tenet of existentialism is absurdity — specifically, the absurdity of searching for answers in an answerless world. Take one of the most famous opening sentences in literature: “As Gregor Samsa awoke one morning from uneasy dreams he found himself transformed in his bed into a gigantic insect.” The line is fantastic and surreal, but beneath the strangeness of Franz Kafka’s famous short story, “The Metamorphosis,” lies an exploration of alienation and existential anxiety. For Kafka, the human condition is beyond tragic or depressed: It is absurd. Camus, meanwhile, argued that absurdity arises when an individual’s search for order clashes with the world’s inherent lack of order. This is not necessarily a bad thing if we have the courage to accept it, Camus suggested: “Accepting the absurdity of everything around us is one step, a necessary experience: it should not become a dead end. It arouses a revolt that can become fruitful.” WHAT ABOUT GOD? Existentialism can be atheistic, theological, or agnostic. Kierkegaard was intensely religious, despite at times struggling with what that meant, and Paul Tillich was a devout Christian existentialist philosopher. Nietzsche, on the other hand, famously proclaimed that “God is dead,” while Sartre and De Beauvoir were radical humanist atheists. For the existentialists, the freedom of choice to believe or not to believe was more important than faith itself. Sartre saw belief in God as a non-issue: “Existentialism isn’t so atheistic that it wears itself out showing that God doesn’t exist. Rather, it declares that even if God did exist, that would change nothing.” WHAT IS THE MEANING OF LIFE? Existentialism cannot tell us the meaning of life. But if, as they say, we have been thrown into an absurd world, then the existentialists ask us to consider why, by exploring the meaning, purpose, and value of human existence. The philosophy also challenges us to strive for authenticity — to be true to ourselves. The concept of authenticity can vary from one existential philosopher to the next but, generally speaking, inauthenticity involves a form of social conformism and “bad faith,” whereas authenticity requires the individual to own up to their own existence, to accept it and take responsibility for it. This can lead to angst and alienation, but these are accepted as an integral part of authentic living. As for the conclusions of the existentialist philosophers? Well, they are rarely set in stone, like existentialism itself. In Sartre’s Nausea, the main theme is that “existence precedes essence” — that humans do not possess any inherent identity or value, but rather create it themselves as individuals. In Camus’ The Stranger, we see the nakedness of man faced with the absurd. And in Either/Or, Kierkegaard concludes that “there are two possible situations — one can either do this or that. My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it — you will regret both.” So, again, don’t expect concrete answers from the existentialists. But perhaps we can take Kafka’s words here as a guidepost for how to think about life, by finding meaning in the simple fact of existence itself. In a heartbreaking letter to his abusive father — a letter his father never even read — Kafka wrote, “It is, after all, not necessary to fly right into the middle of the sun, but it is necessary to crawl to a clean little spot on Earth where the sun sometimes shines and one can warm oneself a little.” Goals We all set certain goals for ourselves, and it’s natural to feel despondent when we fall short of our aspirations. It can be especially frustrating for those of us keeping an eye on the clock, worrying the window to achieve those dreams is closing. But the timelines we set for ourselves are often totally arbitrary, and there’s almost always another day to get where we want to be. Even if/when someone else gets there faster, it’s important to press on toward the finish line at our own pace. Falling behind is a state of mind at the end of the day, and the best cure is maintaining a sense of optimism and determination. So long as we maintain faith in our own abilities, odds are that we’ll eventually find success — even if that success looks different than we’d originally envisioned. Always keep in mind that every person comes with their own unique set of capabilities and circumstances, and no good can come from comparing our personal progress to that of the people around us. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Meaning of Life

What is the meaning of life? What is my fundamental purpose? Why do I exist? If you’ve ever found yourself pondering such questions, you’ve been dabbling in existentialist philosophy. The concept, however, is not easy to define. It can take diverse and sometimes contrasting directions — and many of the major names in existentialism, including Albert Camus and Martin Heidegger, didn’t even accept the label. Existentialism has its roots in the 19th century, with the philosophers Søren Kierkegaard in Denmark and Friedrich Nietzsche in Germany, as well as the Russian novelist Fyodor Dostoevsky. These great thinkers were critical of rationalism and its adherence to pure reason, and instead focused on the question of meaning. One of the earliest statements of existentialist thought comes from a journal entry written by Kierkegaard in 1835: “What I really need is to get clear about what I must do, not what I must know… the crucial thing is to find a truth which is truth for me, to find the idea for which I am willing to live and die.” Existentialism flourished in Europe from around 1930 to the mid-20th century, championed by the likes of Jean-Paul Sartre, Albert Camus, and Simone de Beauvoir, a trio whose frequent meetings in Parisian cafés have become the stuff of literary legend. And while many of the leading existentialists of the 20th century disagreed about its tenets, there are certain shared elements that form the foundation of existentialism today. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Effects of Movies on Living

Growing up, we may have been taught by movies and society that love is a neat and tidy thing, easy to categorize and identify. We find the one person in the world who’s right for us, we instantly click, and if it’s real love, it’s easy sailing from there on out. No fights, no hurt, just bliss. But as we all eventually learn, that idealized version of love doesn’t align with reality. Not only that, but that narrow concept of love totally undersells it. As we’ve written in the past, there are many glorious forms of love, and they all weave colorful threads into the tapestries of our lives. There may be much more to learn (and unlearn) about love than any of us realize. If we’re lucky, we’ll spend our whole lives getting to know the heights and depths of this complicated human feeling. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Tiny Error of Life That Make it Great

Life is full of tiny errors that, while frustrating in the moment, can help us grow as individuals in the long run. These little miscues are essential for our self-education, as nobody starts off knowing everything. But despite the fact that everyone makes mistakes, we often dwell on them for far longer than we should, which can contribute to self-doubt that does more harm than good. It’s important to view mistakes not as personal failings but rather as building blocks for a more complete, well-rounded life. We need to be able to shrug our shoulders, learn whatever lessons present themselves, and look toward the future with a lighthearted attitude instead of continually fretting over the past. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Resiliency

Resiliency is a skill that resides within each of us, though it often requires hardship in order to fully activate. It’s the ability to withstand adversity — to recover emotionally when life deals its blows. The old adage “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade” comes to mind; resilience largely depends on our attitude and mental stamina when confronted with challenging times. The good news is that resilience is a skill that can be developed over time — in fact, that has been scientifically proven to be the case. Studies at the Yale School of Medicine found that the brain is a muscle that can be trained to be more resilient over time. The difference between tending to buckle under pressure and being able to bounce back is related to community, mindfulness, and exercise, among other factors. According to the research, people who are resilient tend to have vast social networks to fall back on, engage in regular physical activity (exercise has been known to decrease stress), and practice keeping their minds trained on the present moment. It can be strengthening to remember that when we experience setbacks and challenges, our ability to bounce back can act as an inspiration to other folks who might be going through tough times. Below, we’ve rounded up 14 quotes that speak to the benefits of resilience, and the importance of finding our way back up after getting knocked down. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Don't Be Paralyzed

We’ve all been paralyzed by overwhelming feelings from time to time: Whether we’re dealing with stress, fear, grief, heartbreak, or low self-confidence, it’s easy to get mired in our emotions and to struggle to break free. Feeling our emotions is a great thing, though — it’s much healthier to work through our difficult feelings than to suppress them, which will only cause them to resurface more intensely in the future. But the key phrase here is “work through”; we must do the work to feel, process, and release these emotions and not allow them to hold us back from what lies ahead. When we’re stuck in our feelings without a clear path forward, sometimes all we need is a little jolt to change our perspective and to remind us of all the good things that await us on the other side of our seemingly insurmountable feelings. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Farewell

Bidding farewell to the familiar and embracing change is always difficult to some degree, especially later in life once we’ve settled further into our habits and routines. But our golden years often leave us no choice but to adapt, even if we’d rather stay the course. Maybe we have to come to terms with retiring after 50 years, or cope with losing a loved one we’ve known since childhood — either way, when such events happen, the best thing we can do is face them head-on. Knowing that change is inevitable, we’re left with two choices. We can fear it, deny it, and run from it, or we can open our minds to it and grow. If we choose the latter, we may find ourselves surprised at just how much that mindset can enrich our lives. After all, age is just a number, and whether we’re 8 or 80, we can always learn new skills. And of course, change doesn’t necessarily have to be the result of a traumatic event. It can also mean picking up that hobby we’ve always thought about trying or selling our home and living in an RV like we’ve always dreamed about. It boils down to being willing to take that first step and walk forward into the unknown with an optimistic outlook. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

New Things

We have so many ways of marking new beginnings: a new year on the calendar, a wedding, the birth of a child. Life is full of monumental fresh starts, but the truth is that new beginnings can happen any time, anywhere. At any moment in the day we can choose to take a deep breath and set an intention to do things differently, to make good choices, to appreciate the people in our lives. You can do it right now. Breathe in. Breathe out. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Sticking Together

In an era when many workplaces are remote, when we can order our groceries online and we hardly have to leave our homes for anything, it can be all too easy to isolate ourselves from others. But it’s crucial to remember that we humans are social creatures by nature, wired for connection and with a deep need for community. As the Jacobean poet John Donne once wrote, “No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main.” In other words, we rely on each other. We need one another to fulfill our basic needs for love and connection, to provide purpose and meaning in our lives, and to fall back on when times get hard. Our ability to collaborate and cooperate with one another has led to some of humanity’s greatest accomplishments. It’s only by remaining united in the face of obstacles that seek to divide us that we can continue to strive toward a brighter future. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Courage

Summoning courage is often easier said than done. We can prepare for a test, a job interview, a date, or an audition to the best of our abilities, but when the time comes to actually prove ourselves, we may still feel or show signs of fear. This is natural, and in fact, it’s a sign that we’re moving in the right direction. As Amy Poehler once said, “Being nervous is great! How often do we get nervous on a daily basis? Being slightly nervous means you care, and you’re alive, and you’re taking some kind of risk. Hooray for being nervous!” Even if nerves are a good thing, though, it’s not easy to muster the bravery required to override them and get to whatever lies on the other side. This is the test we must pass over and over again to unlock the most valuable parts of life. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Reaction to Life

There are two ways to react when life throws unexpected challenges our way: We can always dig in our heels and refuse to budge, but remaining close-minded and stubborn rarely helps anyone develop into a better version of themselves. On the other hand, striving to stay flexible and open-minded is one of the most appealing qualities a person can have, and a willingness to adapt on the fly will almost certainly help lead us down better and brighter paths. This doesn’t necessarily mean we should immediately accept all the new ideas presented to us, as it’s good to be discerning and there will still be times when it’s best to stick to our initial plans. But we should always be open to hearing people out and changing our minds if it seems wisest to do so. This allows us all to see from new perspectives and make informed decisions about the best ways to proceed. If we keep our minds tightly shut to other voices besides our own, ignorance may win out and ultimately hold us back from realizing our full potential. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Life is...

Life is a magnificent adventure. It is so magical, it shall never let you suffer. You should always catch a miracle or as many as you need for that is God's work. Never worry about things you can't control. Just the present. Be as delightful as possible in your endeavors. #BeNoteWorthy #piccadillyinc yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Routines in Life

Routines and careful planning have their place in life, to be sure. But for those of us who tend to adhere a bit too closely to our lists and schedules, living our lives so rigidly can prevent us from enjoying the spice of life. It can be difficult to break free of our self-imposed guidelines, but incorporating more spontaneity into our lives can help us feel a whole new type of fulfillment. These spur-of-the-moment decisions don’t have to be anything enormous. For example, we might try taking a different route home from work and eat at a new restaurant we find along the way. Even these small deviations from our norm can allow us to unlock exciting new possibilities. Still, there’s a balance to be struck between spontaneity and discipline; being impulsive all the time is obviously irresponsible and can lead us into trouble. But there’s an interesting relationship between routine and surprise, as we often can’t have one without the other. If we don’t take care to have our finances in order, for instance, it may not be possible to splurge on that last-minute vacation with our friends. yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

Inspiration

It has been well established by science that humans possess an intrinsic instinct for mimicry. Frown at someone, and they will often glower back. Smile and you’re likely to inspire a reciprocal grin. A similar theory underlies the power of positive thinking: When we consciously choose to introduce a positive thought into our minds, our bodies respond instinctively.Positive thinking can reduce stress, improve immunity, and even make us more resilient in the face of adversity. When our bodies get the signal from our brains that all is well, they, in turn, signal our brains to feel more content. It’s a positive feedback cycle that can be quite powerful.Of course, it’s important to acknowledge that life will have its ups and downs, but if we can try to see the low points as part of the normal fluctuations that we all experience, we can turn our focus toward the positive, and help ourselves move in the direction of the things we want. More than anything, positive thinking is about setting intention and being open to possibility.

Alone and Lonely differences

Ask any introvert and they’ll tell you: There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. But you don’t need to be an introvert to enjoy the solitary pleasure of doing your own thing on your own schedule — the blissful freedom and peace that come from spending time alone.Sometimes being alone can be a way for us to refill our emotional well and give time and space to our thoughts without the buzz of activity that having other people around can bring. It’s also an important step in developing a creative mind.Neuroscientists have discovered that by directing our focus inward during times of solitude, we’re using a different brain network than when we’re engaging with others and directing our attention outward. But it isn’t only artists and creators who can benefit from solitary reflection. We learn about ourselves when we choose to spend time alone — it gives us a chance to explore our thoughts and interests and develop a stronger sense of our own identity.Whether you live for those times when you can be by yourself or you simply crave a few solitary moments before diving back into the wild rumpus of social life, these quotes about being alone will remind you that, sometimes, we are our own best company.

Age

Getting older is inevitable, but in a world where the word “aging” is usually prefaced with “anti,” it can be difficult to enjoy the process, as normal and natural as it is. Yet there are many benefits to getting older: With age come experience, wisdom, and an opportunity to live more intentionally and enjoy every day.

“As I go on in life and I feel more and more myself and less judgmental about myself, my values become clearer to me,” Gwyneth Paltrow once said, highlighting a hopeful way to think about aging. “I can be in integrity all the time, which is much harder when you’re younger.”With a slight shift in perspective, it’s possible to see all the positives that come along with moving up in years. It can be helpful to remember that not everyone gets the chance to age as far into life as others, and that we should cherish the time as we have it.

Limitations are Guidelines

Marlene

We all face limitations, but let us consider them guidelines, not barriers. Think of them as gentle nudges that shape our unique journeys, guiding and supporting us along the way. Everyone encounters obstacles, but how we navigate them defines our path.

Consider life's guidelines like a map: they provide direction but don't dictate every step. Embrace your limitations as part of your story, using them to fuel your determination and creativity. It's these qualities that will help you navigate the map of life, even when the path seems unclear.

Open Your Mind and Heart

Marlene

Viewing life as a gift opens up a world of possibilities and opportunities. It encourages us to appreciate every moment and recognize the potential within ourselves.When we see life through this lens, we feel a profound gratitude that fuels our desire to grow and give back. Each day becomes a chance to become a better version of ourselves, learn, and contribute to the world.By embracing this perspective, we empower ourselves to make positive changes, not just for our benefit but also for others. This sense of responsibility to give back transforms our actions, leading us to create meaningful connections and leave a lasting impact.Remember, the true beauty of life lies in the joy of becoming more and sharing that growth with others. Seize the day with a grateful heart and a mindset ready to give back, and watch how life's gifts multiply.

Everyone Appreciates Being Appreciated

Marlene

Have you ever noticed the look on someone's face when you praise them for doing something right? They beam! Why? Because most of the time, they are afraid that people will catch them doing something wrong, and then the criticism starts.

Let's face it, we love to be appreciated, and we also have learned how important it is to let others know how much we appreciate them.

Your appreciation for the little things in life is a wonderful character trait to develop and exercise daily.

Sometimes, you might feel confused when the word gratitude comes up along with appreciation. No, they are not the same thing. Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness, while appreciation is when you show that gratitude.

So the next time you have the opportunity to express your appreciation to someone, take advantage of it! Not only will the other person feel special that you recognized them, but your heart will feel a little happier too.

Your Past Is In The Past

Marlene

Your Future Is Wide Open

When you woke up, today was yesterday's future. How are you going to live it? Everything you do is your choice.

Will you still want to go through the motions and routines you have become comfortable with? How often do you think about what you want to do in the future? Who do you want to be, and how do you want to live on purpose?

Who you are and where you are today happened because of your past choices. The past is over; you can't change it; you can change your future by changing how you think and act, starting now. With a spotless future ahead of you, you can do amazing things with your life in the days, weeks, and years to come.

Live intentionally, and not unconsciously. Fill today with the hopes and dreams you had yesterday or find new ones to pursue. Take responsibility for your thoughts, words, and actions, and decide how you will respond. You are on your way to new growth, new learning, new words, and a new life, right?

Your future is brighter than you know right now. Dream more, do more, and be more. I'm here to encourage you along the way!

You Can Start Right Now

Marlene

Do you wake up each morning to expect a great day? Or are you searching for more improvement in one or more areas of your life?

If you are looking to improve, that means growth awaits, and it will be an exciting time with a positive attitude. Don't be surprised if fear tries to show up when you seek changes. Look at it, and if you can discover what is causing the fear, you will be able to move on more quickly with more confidence.

So how do you go about starting these improvements? Here are some affirmations you can say out loud or to yourself to get focused and in the right mindset.

I believe that each day is a fresh start and I will make the most of it!

I can change my life by changing my priorities.

I know that taking action is key to achieving my goals.

I won't be afraid to ask for help.

I am surrounding myself with positive people.

I will keep a positive attitude, even when things get tough.

I have to celebrate my accomplishments!

Everyone starts where they are. If your life is working out as you want it, congratulations! If it's not, more resources will be coming your way.

What Is In Front Of You?

Marlene

Have you ever thought about your blessings? The ones you receive every day? Our lives seem to be on auto-pilot; we have a routine and follow it without veering left or right. Occasional, we look back and remember the ups and downs while the present and the future are right in front of us, trying to get our attention. Yes, I know that sounds obvious, and that's exactly the point. Sometimes we miss the obvious.Let's see if you can spot the obvious in a photo: Can You See Your Blessings?Remember that you are constantly receiving blessings that help your life. Some are easy to recognize, and others are not. Just because you can't see something, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.

The Secret To Finding Happiness

Marene

I think Mandy Hale says it perfectly --- Happiness is an inside job. Your happiness is your responsibility and privilege.

Imagine you are on a deserted island, without any other people. Can you still be happy? Definitely! Why? Because you are in charge of how you think about things. Of course, you might not like the situation, and you may be afraid, bored, or excited about your new way of life, but this is what you have to deal with.

If you are waiting for others to find you, it might happen or maybe not. Either way, you have to live each day and decide whether you will be happy about being alive. What you choose to focus on will depend on your thinking.

Mistakes Are Gifts In Disguise

Marlene

You can learn a lot from mistakes; we all make them. How would life be different if you could see the gifts each error brings to you?

Some mistakes cause us to say, "I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Please forgive me." Other errors come with lessons on what to do and what to eliminate next time.

Choices, opportunities, inspiration, and lessons? Yes, they are included for motivation to try again and keep trying, regardless of how many times we misstep. Remember, we are human, and we are prone to errors. That's how we learn; that's how we live. Don't let the fear of a mistake hold you back. Open your arms to it and go!

KINDNESS

There is a kindness that dwells deep down in things; it presides everywhere, often in the places we least expect. The world can be harsh and negative, but if we remain generous and patient, kindness inevitably reveals itself. Something deep in the human soul seems to depend on the presence of kindness; something instinctive in us expects it, and once we sense it we are able to trust and open ourselves.

JOHN O'DONOHUE

You Are A Magnet

Marlene

Right now, you have within you everything you will need as you navigate your way through life. Yes, you are a magnet and must do your part. You use some of your talents and gifts frequently, yet your other strengths await you to take action, to bring them into the light.

The Universe always sees the distance between where you are and where you want to be. The question is: Do you have plans to get there?

Surprisingly, most people do have plans, yet, they can't seem to follow through each day to ensure victory.

Reading positive books for personal development, attending webinars and seminars, and creating to-do lists are helpful. The proper training, coaching, or counseling may lead to the breakthroughs you've been searching for. The process is different for everyone. Keep an open mind; if you get stuck, help is always available. All you have to do is ask.

Take Action and Live With Purpose

Marlene

It's a pivotal moment when you decide to shed the weight of excuses, cast off the shackles of self-sabotage, and bid farewell to the trap of self-pity. Constantly comparing yourself to others only diminishes your potential. Now, more than ever is the time to rise above.

Today, commit to taking decisive action and infuse every facet of your life with unwavering purpose.

Recognize and embrace your journey's uniqueness wholeheartedly. Face challenges head-on and leverage your strengths to create a path forward. The illusion of the 'perfect moment' dissipates in the face of proactive determination.

Seize the opportunity to architect the life you envision, transcending personal and professional boundaries. This moment of transformation holds boundless potential.

Embrace it and allow it to propel you toward realizing your deepest aspirations.

Take care and have an amazing day!

Today It's Your Turn!

Marlene

Today isn't just another day in the hustle; it's your turn to shine amid the ordinary.

Picture this: you're not just a professional navigating the business realm but the protagonist in your extraordinary story. Balancing work, family, and everything in between is no small feat, but today, the narrative takes an unexpected turn.

There's an air of anticipation in the boardroom or at the kitchen table. What's going to make today stand out?

It might be a game-changing decision at work, a heartwarming family moment, or an uncharted adventure. The beauty lies in the unpredictability of it all.

How about adding a sprinkle of inspiration to your routine today? Share a positive quote or a motivational story with your family during that homemade dinner. It adds a touch of encouragement to your day and might uplift their spirits.

You've got this dual role of provider and motivator, and weaving a bit of positivity into the daily grind could make it all the more meaningful.

So, step into the spotlight, savor the moment, and let the ordinary transform into something remarkable.

Life's grandest stories often unfold when we least expect them, and today, the script is in your hands.

So, go ahead, make today uniquely yours!

The Power Of What-If

Marlene 

I find it intriguing how pondering "What-If" scenarios regarding our past decisions can transport us back in time, keeping us anchored in the past rather than the present moment. This phenomenon is worth recognizing because it emphasizes the crucial role of mindfulness and living in the now.

When we dwell too much on what might have been, we miss out on the beauty and potential of what currently is. The past is an invaluable teacher, but it's not a place to set up permanent residence. Embracing the present allows us to make the most of the opportunities right in front of us and shape a better future.

Pursue Wisdom

Each day is filled with a hundred choices and decisions, and wisdom is our best guide. Wisdom comes from three places – experience, learning and our deepest intuition. Each day is an opportunity to gather and use all three.   Experience comes from engaging with life, learning comes from observing, and intuition comes from listening to myself. At the end of the day sit down and write down what was the main experience, what did I learn and what did I hear…from myself? You did listen to yourself…didn’t you?

Embrace Change

When you are aware and accept that everything around you is constantly changing, and that you have no control over 99.99% of it, you are able to embrace change like a close friend!

Change is a like a river, constantly flowing and moving things around. The river of life is constantly bringing you ideas, people, situations – each one is an opportunity to be enriched or to enrich others, and to learn.

Change is the play of the universe as it entertains us in the biggest light and sound show of all time. Why not sit back and enjoy the show?

Reason, Season and a Lifetime

Marlene

Have you noticed that some people disappear from your life? All of a sudden, they are gone. Or how about when someone else shows up just at the right time? Then there are people who we will have lifetime friendships with. Why is this? Is there a reason that all of this happens for us?

Poet Brian A. "Drew" Chalker starts his poem to explain these variations this way:

People always come into your life for a reason, a season, and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

Where Did Your Strength Come From?

Marlene

Have you ever been in situations where you felt like you couldn't handle them, but somehow, you found the strength within you to push through?

Life has a funny way of throwing unexpected challenges our way, making us doubt ourselves or causing heartache, pushing us to our limits.

However, in these moments of adversity, we discover our true strength and resilience.

You have the power to overcome any obstacle that comes your way, and your story can inspire others to do the same.

The Achievement Of Your Goal

Make A Commitment

Commitment is the Catalyst. It transforms a mere wish into a concrete plan, motivating you to work relentlessly towards your objective. It's a promise you make to yourself that no matter what, you will do whatever it takes to achieve your goal and believe in your ability to reach it. By doing so, you set in motion a series of events that align with your highest aspirations.

While committing to a goal, you may notice a boost to your self-confidence. This newfound confidence fuels your determination and resilience. You're less likely to be discouraged by setbacks or obstacles because your unwavering commitment reminds you of the bigger picture. Your goal becomes a matter of when, not if, you'll achieve it.

The Power of Focus directs your energy towards what truly matters, eliminating distractions and frivolous pursuits. This intense focus enhances your efficiency and effectiveness. It's as if commitment acts as a magnetic force, attracting the necessary resources, opportunities, and people to support your journey.

Power On

Each day we all need to recharge our spiritual battery, otherwise the light of our consciousness becomes dim, thoughts become fuzzy, and decisions are impregnated with doubt.   Power is available inside and outside. Inside us we have a spiritual centre, at the core of our consciousness, pure radiant spiritual light. This is what we are. However it is now blocked by our attachments, the record of all our life experiences and many learned beliefs and perceptions. Outside us we have the sun of spirit, the source, invisible to our physical eyes but only one second away when we are able to quieten and focus our mind.   Meditation connects us to both sources of power – that’s why meditation is the way to access the real vitamins and the minerals that spirit craves. The vitamin of pure love and the minerals of truth and wisdom.   Take time to empower yourself today. Sit quietly and connect your mind to each source and allow yourself to recharge and renew.

Spiritual Life

As we grow in strength in our spiritual life, we give up the habit of worrying. It serves no purpose other than to make us feel tense and miserable. When I stop fretting about things that are beyond my control and focus instead on generating optimistic and kind thoughts, my life can begin to flow in ever more positive directions. Such a light and easy approach to life enables me to take everything in my stride.

Positive Energy

When someone lightens up your life just by their presence, you can be sure they are emitting a very positive energy. When someone puts a damper on the meeting or a conversation, you can be sure there is some hidden inner baggage which contains sorrow and darkness. Which do you bring to the party? A little light or a little dark? A lot of optimism or a little pessimism?

In olden days, before one switch could illuminate a whole city, one candle had to be lit by another. So if you are aware that you are carrying a little darkness, perhaps it may be useful to spend time with someone whose inner light is already lit, and stays lit in all circumstances. Eventually we may learn the art ourselves, and then serve as a candle to others.

What matters?

Copyright © 2004 Tom Krause

There are a lot of things about parenthood that could make one cry... the cost of formula, sleepless nights, or diaper messes just to name a few. However, for me the absolute worst had to be --- immunization shots.

At about two months into parenthood, I learned the true meaning of the word "heartbreak". There could not have be anything worse than watching helplessly as he receives his first round of immunization shots. I would have rather have been run over by a truck than have to sit there and watch him go through that.

While listening to his screams, I kept thinking that surely medical science could have come up with a better way of doing this by now. As far as any solace from the doctor, all he could say was, "Ah, look at those healthy tears." As we left the office, I whispered into my son's ear, "It's okay, Sam. Sometimes you just have to cry."

In a way I guess it was only a matter of time before Sam was introduced to pain in his life.

I remembered losing my father to a sudden car accident a number of years ago. I tried to remain strong through it all. One day, when a song came on the radio that reminded me of your grandpa, I completely lost it. It was the first time since the funeral that I just let go and cried. It felt good to not hold back anymore.

The earliest memory I have of my father is one of me as a young boy holding his hand by his two last fingers as we walked together. His hands seemed so large that his fingers were all I could actually grip. He always took me with him to basketball games even at my young age. I will never forget that.

As I grew older I remember dad and I listening to high school basketball games together on an old transistor radio. I would make a list of players names on a piece of paper and keep track of how many points each would score as the game went on. Too small to stay awake for the whole game, I always fell asleep before the game ended. When I would wake up in the morning I would find the score sheet lying next to me. The score sheet would be filled out with the final score on it completed by my father before he carried me to bed.

I remember the times when my father would stop by the house in the early morning on those cold days when I was home from school over Christmas break. I used to ride on the floor of that bread truck as he delivered the bread to the stores. I don't know if those old trucks even had heaters but it didn't matter. The smell and warmth from the bread that had just come from the bakery ovens would make my mouth water and keep me warm both at the same time.

In high school I became very interested in athletics. My father would attend all my games. My senior year our football team qualified to play in the state championship game. It was the first time in the history of our school that any team had advanced that far.

The night before the game my father came to me and sadly announced that he would not be able to attend. He had to deliver the bread to the stores and the site of the games was a three hour drive from his route. He vowed to listen to every play on the transistor radio. Consumed with the anticipation of the game, I acknowledged his comments without fully noticing his regret.

The next day as game time approached I couldn't help thinking about my dad. For some reason, as I lined up for the second half kickoff, I happened to look across the field into the parking lot. There I saw his blue and white bread truck pulling into the stadium. He has delivered the bread and made the long drive in time to at least see part of the game in which we won the state championship.

Years later I had become a teacher and coach.

Early one morning I was awakened by the sound of the telephone ringing at 5:30 A.M. As I struggled to answer the phone I'll never forget the sound of the sheriff's voice on the other end telling me that my dad had just been killed in an automobile accident on his way to work. Cattle from a nearby farm had broken through a fence and wandered onto the highway. Being a dark, rainy morning my father never saw them as he came over a ridge. The impact spun the car sideways in the highway before a semi-trailer collided with it. He was killed instantly. As I listened to the story I could hear my heart beat in my ears. I hung up the phone devastated.

For a long time after that things really didn't matter to me. I went about my life but I really didn't care. It felt as if my heart had been torn away and in a sense it had. I went to work. I still taught school but I was just going through the motions.

One day I was on the school playground supervising a first grade recess. A little boy walked up to me and grabbed my hand by my last two fingers. Just like I use to do to my dad. In that moment my father came back to me.

In that instant I realized that even though my father was gone he had left me something behind. He had left me his smile. He had left me his compassion. He had left me his heart.

When that little boy touched my hand I realized that all these wonderful gifts that I had loved so much about my father could be passed on to others. From that moment on I started. In that moment I understood the meaning of the word heritage.

Like his father, there will be times in my son's life when he will feel pain. When that happens, I hope I am there for him. If I am not, I hope he remembers the words I whispered in his ear that day as we left the doctor's office. "It's okay, Sam. Sometimes you just have to cry."

If You Became Grateful Right Now

Marlene

Imagine embracing gratitude for our entire past, no matter how tough it was. It's like flipping a switch in our minds. Suddenly, the future becomes this canvas of possibilities.

When we swap out the glasses we use to look at life, suddenly, everything's a bit clearer and hopeful. We anticipate good things, knowing that even the challenges are stepping stones.

A Lesson From Larry Bird

Embrace Self-Improvement

Larry Bird, a renowned basketball player, acknowledged the need for self-improvement. Despite his exceptional skills, he identified his weaknesses and worked towards transforming them into strengths.

Do you have areas that need improvement? It's like polishing a diamond; applying pressure can do wonders.

Why Is Today So Important?

Marlene

When you read today's quote, remember the wisdom in the passage resonates across ages. It's a timeless reminder that our journey through life is a continuous cycle of learning, growth, and inspiration.

As we navigate each day with intention, we create a life filled with joy and purpose for ourselves and set an example that can inspire others to embark on their remarkable journeys.

So, let's embrace the power of the present, keep spreading positivity, and continue to ignite the spark of greatness in all of us. Keep shining your light and motivating others because every step forward counts.

The Struggle Can Make You Stronger

Marlene

Picture this: Have you ever paused to consider the potential outcomes when you choose not to oppose the difficulties that come your way?

Instead of pushing back, what if you welcomed them, harnessing their power to propel you forward?

By acknowledging and even embracing these challenges, you unlock a world of possibilities for personal growth and self-discovery. Every obstacle becomes a valuable teacher, imparting wisdom and resilience that ultimately contribute to your journey toward success.

Will You Believe In Yourself?

Marlene

Believe in yourself; it's okay. You believe in so many others; what's holding you back from believing in you? You are very worthy of your love; you are very worthy of your self-confidence. Know that your life will change once you write in your heart that you believe in yourself.Today's story is about Muhammad Ali, one of the greatest sports figures of this century. Written by Brian G. Jett, an inspiring writer, and published author, his personal story starts off this way:"During my third and fourth grade years, my family uprooted to Louisville, Kentucky. To our surprise, we soon discovered the quick witted World Boxing Champion's mother lived less than one mile from our home. Ali was my dad's idol and such a realization mixed well with my father's assertive nature.During one of Ali's visits to stay with his mother, my dad stung my brother and I with a sucker punch as he urged us to get in the car with his camera in hand."

What Does Grace Mean To You?

Grace is a complex and subjective concept encompassing behavior, demeanor, and character. It can be natural for some and developed over time for others.

To be more graceful:

Social Grace: Practice active listening, show empathy, and be respectful.

Emotional Grace: Practice mindfulness, take deep breaths, and avoid impulsive reactions.

Spiritual Grace: Engage in introspection, practice gratitude, and show compassion.

Physical Grace: Maintain good posture, work on coordination, and exercise regularly.

Accept imperfections, practice patience, and cultivate inner peace. Learn from role models. Remember, it's a journey of growth and self-improvement. Be patient and celebrate progress.

Where Do Old Habits Go?

Marlene

For years, researchers have been attempting to answer the question of whether old habits genuinely disappear. The truth is that only you can successfully alter your unconscious patterns and habits.

To transform your habits, identify the one you want to change. Understand why you engage in it, set achievable goals, create a strategy, and be patient and persistent.

Pinpoint areas that require improvement, establish realistic objectives, and acknowledge minor successes. Progress is more important than perfection. So, take it one step at a time and stay committed to the journey.

Dreams

Why is this my dream? What do I need to do right now to get started? Who might be able to help me? Where else can I look for assistance? How will I measure my progress?When can I anticipate results from my efforts? A Dream is planted in your heart and mind for a reason. If you can discover what it is, the door of opportunity will open for you in some way each day. All you have to do is take that first step.

Dreams

Choose your battles wisely. While your core principles and your life goals are important, most of what you let upset you is not worth an argument or lost sleep. Take Lao Tzu's advice and become softer and more flexible.

Dreams

Marlene

Do you have a dream that gets you fired up? You know what I am talking about. Your dream could be to travel the world, invent a new medication, start a foundation or be a great parent. Maybe you secretly seek adventure and opportunity or a peaceful and happy life. Whatever seems to rock you out of bed, go for it. Ask yourself the following daily questions to move closer to your goal, your dream.

"Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes."

"Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes."

Carl Jung

Swiss psychologist Carl Jung is best known for his theories concerning the unconscious — our personalities, dreams, and intuitions. He believed that to develop a “true self,” each person had to distinguish the ego (individual identity) from the collective unconscious (shared symbols and patterns over human history). In that vein, Jung helped establish psychotherapy for people who felt their lives had lost meaning, guiding them to examine their individuality. His studies are a testament to the power of looking inward: When we understand ourselves and our place in the world, it gives us the clarity and insight we need to live with purpose.

A List of Gratitudes - a Thanksgiving

Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Making a list of gratitudes is an exercise that holds renewed power each time it is repeated. One can never be too conscious of everything there is for which to be grateful. So make a gratitude list today... and make another one next month, or maybe next week, or maybe tomorrow. Don't take ANYTHING for granted... start the list with "being alive," and "being ME." List EVERYTHING there is to be grateful for... NO Assumptions! NO Expectations!

While you're working on your list, let me share mine: I'm grateful to be alive and ME in this instant. I'm grateful for everything that has ever occurred to bring me to this moment of being exactly who I am today. I'm grateful to my distant ancestors who survived eons of sameness punctuated by moments of terror... who fought saber tooth tigers and barely survived each winter in order to pass down the genes that make me who I am today. I am grateful to my father's father who sailed from China alone as a young boy in the hold of a sailing ship, bringing my genes from desperate hunger to the opportunity of America. I am grateful to my father's mother and her ancestors who brought their part of my biological inheritance from Holland to "New Amsterdam." I am grateful to my mother's parents who brought their share of my genes from an unhappy Germany to a new beginning in Connecticut. I am grateful to my parents for choosing to bring me into the world - 17 years after my only sibling, and at an age when most couples of their generation had completed their childbearing. Just genetically, my chances of being ME are infinitesimally small.

I am grateful for everything my parents did and didn't do. I am grateful for the unconditional love I received from each of them. I am grateful for the lessons of my father's heavy drinking, and my mother's fear of strangers. I am grateful both for the joy of my mother's generous readings and other attentions to me, and for the pain my isolated early childhood later caused me. I am grateful even for the bullying and other painful experiences of my youth, as each one made me the person I am today. I am grateful for every success and every failure I have ever had... every new love and every divorce... every promotion and every firing... every smile and every tear.

There is simply nothing NOT to be grateful for.

Importance of Friendship

The importance of friendship is hard to overstate. Having a circle of friends can provide a feeling of inclusion and acceptance, and offer emotional support during difficult times. Whether we're dealing with a breakup, the loss of a loved one, or another life challenge, having supportive friends to confide in can help alleviate stress and provide a different perspective on the situation.

Friendships can also help boost our self-esteem and confidence. When surrounded by supportive friends who offer encouragement and positive feedback, we feel more self-assured and capable of achieving our goals. Friends are often a source of motivation and accountability, too, and can inspire us to pursue personal growth and development.

Making new friends can be challenging, however — particularly for those of us who are shy or introverted, or as we get older. But the effort is entirely worth it. We can try attending events or social gatherings that interest us, joining groups that align with our hobbies, or volunteering for a cause that we’re passionate about. As we spend more time with new people, our common interests will lead to deeper discussions and connections. With a little patience, we can see new friendships bloom like flowers in springtime, enriching our life in wonderful ways.

Rock On!

Marlene

Rock on Dave Grohl, musician and the legendary founder of the rock band Foo Fighters! I love your music, enthusiasm, and individuality. Some may think you're out there, but you embrace your individuality and encourage others to do the same.

Each of us has something so wonderful about us that not sharing it makes it seem less significant. Will everyone understand or like it? Probably not. But this is your life; you don't need anyone's permission to be who you are.

Have a great day, and remember: You are unique, valuable, and important. Live your life out loud and rock on!

All Power Is Within You

Marlene

I have always loved learning about different societies, ways of life, religions, and people who have impacted the world. One of these people is Swami Vivekananda. His short biography starts this way:

"Swami Vivekananda (1863-1902) was the foremost disciple of Sri Ramakrishna and a world spokesperson for Vedanta. His lectures, letters and poems are published as The Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda. Swamiji, as Vivekananda is affectionately known, believed it was best to teach universal principles rather than personalities. Therefore, his teaching and writing focus on Vedanta philosophy and not Sri Ramakrishna.

Vivekananda represented Hinduism at the 1893 World's Parliament of Religions convened during the World's Columbian Exposition in Chicago. With his opening words, 'Sisters and brothers of America', Swamiji brought the crowd to its feet. Subsequently, he was invited to speak all over America and Europe. Most Vedanta Societies founded in America and Europe up through the 1930s can trace their origins directly to Vivekananda or the people who heard him speak from 1893 through 1900.

Be curious about others and their ways of life. Most of the time we can find more similarities than differences. Take care today, and open your heart!

Are You The Brightness In Someone's Life?

Marlene

You know that person; it might even be you. Are you the one who is like a rock that others can lean on when they are tired, lonely, upset, and out of ideas? Maybe you're the one that the neighborhood kids come to because they know you will listen and encourage them when they need some guidance. I think we've all been there in that role at least 100 times in our life.

You are approachable without even knowing why sometimes, like in the grocery store. Has this ever happened to you? You're doing your shopping, up and down the aisles looking for your favorites, when someone approaches and asks for help. You look around and see five other people in the aisle with you. Why did this person pick you?

People can sense who will be willing to help or listen. It always happens to me, especially when I least expect it. Of course, I am glad to help them navigate where they need to be and ask if there's anything else I can do for them. Most of the time, they say, "Thank you, I appreciate your help," and continue on their way.

So the next time you're in a crowded store, turn up your smile as you cruise the aisles. You never know what kind of wonderful encounter awaits as you turn down the next aisle.

Zero-Based Gratitude

Perhaps you have heard of zero-based budgeting as a technique for governments, businesses, and occasionally individuals. Zero-based budgeting is in contrast to traditional incremental budgeting. In incremental budgeting, one starts with the budget for the last year, or other period, and prepares a budget for the next period based on the budget for the last period - incorporating whatever increases, or very occasionally decreases, are deemed appropriate.

Zero-based budgeting begins with a base-line of no expenditures, rather than the base-line of last year's expenditures. Each and every proposed expense must be justified on its own merits rather that falling back on the argument that it was in the last year's budget, and that everybody expects and demands it.

Most people's gratitude is incremental gratitude. If they receive a raise, a bigger house, a third car, a new love interest, or a healthy new baby, they are grateful. If they lose their job, are forced to downsize, have a tiff with their spouse, or have an illness in the family, they are disappointed and angry. Why disappointed and angry? Because they have not been blessed with as much today as they were yesterday.

Suppose our gratitude could be zero-based gratitude. With zero-based gratitude, we would be grateful for everything we had each day - regardless of whether it was more or less than yesterday. With zero-based gratitude, I can be grateful for a warm comfortable one-bedroom apartment, even if I had a four bedroom house yesterday. I can be grateful for being able to walk, even if I could run yesterday. I can be grateful for all the people, the love, the food, the shelter, the services, the health, that I am blessed with today, regardless of what I had yesterday. With zero-based gratitude, I can be grateful each day for the gift of life itself.

Consider adopting the ongoing practice of zero-based gratitude.

Failure Is Not So Bad

Marlene

Everyone fails, which is okay. If you are a scientist experimenting, you fail over and over again. Something new is learned when an experiment is unsuccessful, allowing the next step, the next trial.

Remember failing is part of success. Ask anyone you know who is what you consider "successful" how many times they have missed the mark, failed greatly, and got back on track to continue their quest.

If we can learn not to fear failure but to be fueled by failure, we can be energized to try again differently. Try not to be discouraged when success doesn't come running into your life. You have to do the work and be willing to accept that there will be times of growth brought about by failure that you couldn't have arrived at any other way.

How to Choose Your Life Purpose

by Jonathan Lockwood Huie

An overly complex statement of life purpose is more confusing than helpful.

Make your statement of life purpose a living document. Modify it whenever you get a significant new insight into your life. Look for opportunities to make that statement more action-oriented. Rewriting your statement to be more specific will help you to translate its intent and emotion into daily projects and tasks.

Put Your Life Purpose in Action Today

It is very unlikely that your statement of life purpose, however much it inspires and motivates you, contains any elements that you can directly take action on today. Suppose your purpose is to end world hunger - that doesn't tell you how to begin today.

The easiest way to get an idea of how to begin today in fulfilling your life purpose is to work backward from your tombstone.

Determine a smaller goal, which you will necessarily have to achieve on the way to your ultimate goal.

Repeat, by determining a even smaller goal, which you will necessarily have to achieve on the way to your intermediate goal.

Continue this process of moving the time-frame back toward the present until you define an interim goal which you sense you can effectively work toward.

Now, begin writing a plan that starts today and leads to the accomplishment of that first interim goal.

Make your Life Purpose the Focus of Your Life

There will always be many calls upon your time - far more than you can ever accommodate. Begin to allocate your time only to projects and tasks that further your life purpose. Does this mean that you shouldn't sleep, or take a vacation, or earn a living? Of course not. In order to fulfill your life purpose you must be rested, fed, relaxed, educated, and provide adequate resources for yourself and your family. But unless "watched over 100,000 hours of daytime television," is what you dream of seeing on your tombstone, ask yourself hard questions about many of your habitual ways of spending time. Choose to focus on projects that are compatible with your life purpose, and allocate a majority of your time to tasks that further those projects.

Stay True to Your Life Purpose.

Your friends and family can be your greatest supporters of your life purpose, or they can be your greatest obstacles. Begin by asking your friends and family for their support. Wherever you get support, be grateful. Wherever you don't, be understanding and polite.

Probably, most of your friends will accept and love you whatever you are up to in life. If so, consider that to be a really good outcome. If you are fortunate enough to have friends who are excited by your new life purpose, be very grateful, and offer to include them in your projects. Some, but hopefully not many, friends will find your new life purpose to be an affront, either because of the purpose itself, or more likely just because you are acting excited and motivated - and that makes them feel "not good enough."

Begin to spend more time with friends - old and new - who support your life purpose, and less time with those who, consciously or subconsciously, sabotage your life purpose.

Life is all about balance — work hard, play hard, that sort of thing. But where can we fit relaxation into that busy go-go-go equation?

The dictionary definition of “relax” is aspirational and healing: “to make or become less tense or anxious.” For some folks, relaxation takes the form of zoning out in front of a TV. For others, gardening or tending to the house offers calming effects. Whatever your chosen method of relaxation — whether it be time spent horizontal in a hammock or pressing pause on work to stroll through the neighborhood — rest should be a built-in part of everyone’s daily routine.

Fishing For The Moon

• One evening, a man went to fetch some water from the well. To his surprise, when he looked into the well, he found the sunken moon shining in the well.  “Oh, good heavens, what a pity! The beautiful moon has dropped into the well!”  So he dashed home for a hook and tied it with a rope to his bucket, then he put it into the well to fish for the moon. After some time, the man was pleased to find that something was caught on the hook. He must have thought it was the moon. He pulled hard on the rope. Due to the excessive pulling, the rope broke and he fell flat on his back.  Taking advantage of that new position, the man saw the moon high in the sky. He sighed, “Aha, it finally went back to its place! What a good job!”   He felt very happy and proudly told whomever he met about this wonderful accomplishment.  Chinese Fable Story

How Well Do You Communicate?What Conversation Are You Living In?

You have a need - a need to communicate. But not all communication is true nor valuable. What do I mean? In today's "Something Extra", Annetta Wilson reveals this:

"You talk everyday. Even to yourself. Every conversation you have plays a part in whether you end up having an uplifting day or a challenging one. From the first 'hello' until the time you say 'goodnight' you live in conversations. Those conversations shape our entire lives."

"Conversations begin and end friendships, determine whether your business or job thrives or dies and if your relationships flourish or become damaged beyond repair."

Tell us more, Annetta: How Well Do You Communicate?

Effective communication and active listening are skills you can learn and improve upon. If you need some help, you know what to do. Take care, and thanks for being here!

De Stress your Life

1- Don't get involved in the children's lives. 

2- Do not interfere with grandchildren's education. 

3- *Love your son-in-law and daughter-in-law, it was your son/daughter who made the choice.* 

4- Never take sides or give opinions on their marriage. 

5- Don't be an old complainer. 

6- Don't be an old man with self-pity. 

7- Don't keep talking ABOUT MY TIME, it's already past, nobody is interested in your history.  

8- Have plans for your future. 

9- Don't talk about sickness or  diseases. No one is interested. 

10- No matter how much you earn, save an amount every month. 

11- Save some money for your funeral or at least have a plan.  Don't leave the burden to the children. 

12- Have a health plan or save some money for medical expenses.  (If possible) 

13- Don't stay or  tuned too much to the news or politics, after all you won't be able to solve anything. 

14- Just enjoy your  TV program or listening to your favourite music. Learn to have fun and don't get anxious or upset about any news. 

15- If you like, keep a pet for companionship. 

16- Stay active, perhaps, learn to cook, make garden, exercise, go for a stroll. Whatever it is, just don't sit around and do nothing.  

17- Keep yourself neat and clean all the time. Maintain personal hygiene.  

18- Accept aging happily, till then, enjoy each passing  day and live wisely. 

19- Let age be a bridge to the future and never a ladder to the past. 

20- *Finally, don't keep good whiskey, wine or beer for tomorrow, it might be too late!*

Conditions

Overwhelm is not a pleasant condition. The to-do list overflows, the deadlines appear imminent and immovable. There are too many demands upon too little of your time. Does this sound familiar?

Truly, there is nothing you must do. Stop. Breathe deeply and slowly. Choose to put your own inner peace first. Then choose to work on what is most important to you, rather than that which appears most urgent.

Have You Ever Had To Start Over?

Marlene

Throughout the last 25 years, I have had the honor and privilege of communicating with people worldwide. Often times they are going through changes in their life, and sometimes they are even starting over... from scratch... with nothing. I know that feeling too.

Yes, it can be very scary when you're unsure how you will pay your bills or find enough money to buy food; it preys on your mind and soul. And yet, most of the people I've talked with know, deep down in their hearts, that things will get better. They're not sure how that will happen, but they have hope and faith that it will.

Strength shows up when you least expect it and will stay with you if you can recognize the power it has to calm you down and help you think clearly.

Someone who is starting over deserves our encouragement. Whether it was their choice or not, they leaped into the unknown and decided to keep moving forward.

So the next time you see someone in a different situation than you, ask yourself this: Could this person be starting over? It may just change how you look at them.

Life

With the lurking of death and deceit around every corner, it is difficult to stay hopeful and optimistic throughout life. It will get better, if you are not at the place or frequency you want you can change it. You are the master of your life, no one else. True others can effect your life, but only with your permission. So don't be a victim of your circumstances be a victor of your survival.

#BeNoteWorthy
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Sand and Stone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, he wrote in the sand: Today my best friend slapped me in the face.

They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but his friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone: Today my best friend saved my life.

The friend, who had slapped and saved his best friend, asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand, and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied: "My grandfather told me to write my hurts in the sand and to carve my blessings in stone.”

Author Unknown

Two More Ailes

A man observed a woman in the grocery store with a three-year-old girl in her basket. 

As they passed the cookie section, the little girl asked for cookies and her mother told her no. The little girl immediately began to whine and fuss, and the mother said quietly, “Now Monica, we just have half of the aisles left to go through; don’t be upset. It won’t be long.”

Soon they came to the candy aisle, and the little girl began to shout for candy. And when told she couldn’t have any, she began to cry. The mother said, “There, there, Monica, don’t cry–only two more aisles to go, and then we’ll be checking out.”

When they got to the check-out stand, the little girl immediately began to clamor for gum and burst into a terrible tantrum upon discovering there’d be no gum purchased. The mother patiently said, “Monica, we’ll be through this checkout stand in 5 minutes and then you can go home and have a nice nap.”

The man followed them out to the parking lot and stopped the woman to compliment her. “I couldn’t help noticing how patient you were with little Monica,” he began. 

Whereupon the mother said, “I’m Monica . . . my little girl’s name is Tammy.”  

Author Unknown

Relative Truth

There was a girl whose family was very wealthy. One day her mother took her on a trip to the country, where she aimed to show her daughter how poor people live. They arrived at the farm of a very poor family, and spent several days there. On their return, the mother asked her daughter if she liked the trip.

"Oh, it was great, Mom!" the girl replied. 

"Did you notice how poor people live?"

"Yeah, I did," said the girl. 

The mother asked her daughter to share more details about her impressions from their trip.

"Well, we have only one dog, and they have four of them. In our garden there is a pool, while they have a river that has no end. We've got expensive lanterns, but they have stars above their heads at night. We have the patio, and they have the whole horizon. We have only a small piece of land, while they have the endless fields. We buy food, but they grow it. We have a high fence for protection of our property, and they don't need it, as their friends protect them."

Then the girl added: "Thank you, Mom, for letting me see how poor we are."

A Fresh View

Two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in forty years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labour and goods as needed without a hitch. Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began small and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.

One morning at his door, one brother found a man with a carpenter's toolbox, looking for a few days work.  

"I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm, it's my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between us and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. See that pile of lumber curing by the barn? I want you to build me a fence - an 8-foot fence - so I won't need to see his place anymore."

The carpenter said, "I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post hole digger and I'll be able to do a job that pleases you." 

The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, and nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. 

There was no fence at all. It was a bridge - a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work - handrails and all - and his younger brother was on the other side, his hand outstretched. 

The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other's hand. "You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I've said and done." said the younger brother.

They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox on his shoulder. "No, wait! Stay a few days. I've a lot of other projects for you," said the older brother. "I'd love to stay on," the carpenter said, "but I have many more bridges to build."

Unknown Author

Wisdom in Silence

The disciples were absorbed in a discussion of Lao-tzu's dictum:

"Those who know do not say; those who say do not know."

When the Master entered, they asked him exactly what the words meant.

Said the Master, "Which of you knows the fragrance of a rose?"

All of them knew.

Then he said, "Put it into words."

All of them were silent.

Author Unknown

Taoist story

Risk or Regret?

Marlene

Today's story starts this way:

"Get out of the way, slowpoke!" Jack shouted, slamming his fist on the horn. "Get that pile of junk off the road!" He yanked the steering wheel hard to the left and sped past the slower car, the horn blaring as he passed. Darkness closed quickly between the two cars.

Suddenly, blue lights began to flicker in his rear-view mirror. "Oh, GREAT!" he grumbled aloud. "Of all the cars on the highway tonight, I WOULD pass an unmarked police car!"

Sounds about right, wouldn't you agree? But wait, why is Jack driving so fast? What is so important to risk getting a ticket?

Let's find out the rest of the story: Risk or Regret?

Everyone has to make a decision at some point in their lives. Sometimes it seems like it's easy to decide and other times, not so much. Risk and regret are two powerful choices. You'll know what to do. Listen to your heart.

Triple Filter

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?" "Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "Well, no," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..." "All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now, let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?" "No, on the contrary..." "So," Socrates continued, "you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left -- the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?" "No, not really." "Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true, nor good, nor even useful, why tell it to me at all? Author Unknown yeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

More Precious Than a Gem

A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman. "I've been thinking," he said, "I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone." Author Unknownyeremiah@aol.com Yeremiah Hardt

*20 WAYS TO AGE WELL*

1- Don't get involved in the children's lives. 2- Do not interfere with grandchildren's education. 3- *Love your son-in-law and daughter-in-law, it was your son/daughter who made the choice.* 4- Never take sides or give opinions on their marriage. 5- Don't be an old complainer. 6- Don't be an old man with self-pity. 7- Don't keep talking ABOUT MY TIME, it's already past, nobody is interested in your history.  8- Have plans for your future. 9- Don't talk about sickness or  diseases. No one is interested. 10- No matter how much you earn, save an amount every month. 11- Save some money for your funeral or at least have a plan.  Don't leave the burden to the children. 12- Have a health plan or save some money for medical expenses.  (If possible) 13- Don't stay or  tuned too much to the news or politics, after all you won't be able to solve anything. 14- Just enjoy your  TV program or listening to your favourite music. Learn to have fun and don't get anxious or upset about any news. 15- If you like, keep a pet for companionship. 16- Stay active, perhaps, learn to cook, make garden, exercise, go for a stroll. Whatever it is, just don't sit around and do nothing.  17- Keep yourself neat and clean all the time. Maintain personal hygiene.  18- Accept aging happily, till then, enjoy each passing  day and live wisely. 19- Let age be a bridge to the future and never a ladder to the past. 20- *Finally, don't keep good whisky, wine or beer for tomorrow, it might be too late!*